Intimacy is one of those subjects that people either love to talk about or it makes them feel uncomfortable. Which is a shame really because it’s something that almost everyone could use a little more of. That’s why I’m writing this article. It’s because I believe that we deserve to have no limits in our lives, especially when it comes to love.
What Exactly Is Intimacy?
What if intimacy was defined by whether or not your heart is open to give and receive love regardless of what your mood is, how much hurt you’ve experienced in your life, or whether you trust people or not? How do you think that would change the way you thought about it.
After coaching, mentoring and teaching thousands of people around the world I’ve come to realize that most of us are more or less damaged on the inside. What this means for us in our everyday lives is that we put limits on how willing we are to open ourselves up to others for fear that we may experience more pain and suffering.
Here’s the thing, though. It’s the shame and pain we hold onto inside us that keeps our heart shut down to the possibility that we can deepen our intimacy with others. Even those that we love and adore the most can often feel like they have been left out in the cold.
It’s not until we can become an open book that anyone can read, not just to those we love but to anyone that we meet, that we can truly enjoy the depths of intimacy. Whenever you hold back from being intimate because you are afraid of feeling vulnerable or exposed that’s where you are limiting intimacy in your life.
Just imagine what it might be like to not need to hang onto old unconscious patterns that limit the amount of love, joy, and freedom you can experience. Isn’t that what most people who get into personal development really want out of their journey? To be free from their past so they can choose the destiny of their making?
Intimacy is the door to the heart. It lets you go deeper and deeper into the core of your being so that you can stand as a beacon of truth that cannot be swayed by fickle matters of other people’s mental, or emotional games. You have nothing left to hide and nothing left to lose because you have accepted everything about who you are.
This acceptance doesn’t happen overnight. For many, it never happens as they go through life avoiding what makes them feel uncomfortable. While for others, an event triggers a reaction in their life where they are now compelled to go deeper inside to find a sense of balance and joy once again.
3 Ways To Support More Openness & Trust
Being more intimate means learning how to nourish yourself from the inside-out first. Unless you embrace your own intimacy then how can you hope to be intimate with others? In fact, intimacy is not about how intimate you can be with another. It’s about how open you can be in their presence.
Here are 3 powerful ways to nourish yourself more from the inside-out.
1. Say what you mean and mean what you say. When you say one thing and do another then you are dividing yourself on the inside. How can you be open and honest with others if you are not being open and honest with yourself? It may not always make you the most popular person on the planet because you are honest about who you are and what you want intimacy is never about popularity – it’s about being open and honest with yourself.
2. Clear your mind of all the rubbish it has accumulated. The best way to do this is meditation. Meditation is like polishing the glass on your mirror when it gets foggy. The more you meditate, the clearer the mind gets. Once the mind is quiet and not filling your head with nonsense, then your heart is free to sing. When your heart sings, then you are ready to be intimate.
3. Live your life fully. The best way to be deeply intimate is to live as if there is no tomorrow and that yesterday is gone forever. When you open your mind and heart to being fully present in the moment and trusting that you are perfect as you are, then you can live in deep love, deep intimacy with many people.
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